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10 Tips for Reaching Out (Even When You Don’t Want To)

Posted by Alexandra Van Rijn on

Sometimes when you are struggling, it can be really difficult to speak out about it. The truth is, reaching out is so important. Even if it feels like it's the hardest thing to do, reaching out will make a world of difference. Here are ten tips to help you reach out- even when you don't want to. 


  1. Surround yourself with people who support you and lift you up.
    This will make it 100 times easier to reach out to one of them if you are struggling. Knowing that they already support you and love you so much will make you feel that much more comfortable. A good support system will help you through any and every struggle.

  2. Go to your school/community counselor if one is available to you.
    Sometimes talking to someone who is removed from the situation can be less intimidating and you can speak freely without pressure or fear of judgment.

  3. Give yourself a pep talk in the mirror.
    This sounds super cheesy but it does work to give yourself the push that everyone sometimes needs to reach out.

  4. Write a letter to whomever you are reaching out to.
    Sometimes the thought of saying something to someone you love face-to-face is extremely daunting and one good way to combat this is to write them a letter. Even if they are in the next room, explain that you are struggling and that you need their help and support. I promise that you will feel so much better after doing this.

  5. Practice. Practice. Practice.
    If reaching out seems scary or you really don’t want to do it then practice what you are going to say either in your head or in the mirror and this will only make it easier.

  6. Reach out anonymously on a hotline
    Good2Talk is a great hotline if you are a post-secondary student at 1-866-925-5454 or the Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868. 

  7. Pick someone, just one person, and reach out to them.
    This is a good first step because even just talking to one person will open the door to you reaching out to more people that you trust and love.

  8. Work on a rewards system.
    For each person you reach out to or each positive step you take, reward yourself with something that you love eating/doing/buying. Get sushi for lunch or treat yourself to a manicure.

  9. Acknowledge that you are worthy of love and support from the people in your life that you trust.
    They will respond to you by showing you even more support and unconditional love and if they don’t then you have an excellent opportunity to expel that negativity from your life.

  10. Know that you don’t have to struggle alone.
    You have a whole community of people who love you and want to help you. 

  11. BONUS!
    Know that you are okay. Everything is going to be okay. Promise. 

Written by Campus Rep Maggie Kent 
Edited by Executive Assistant: Addie Van Rijn 


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